“Because I deserve it.” “That person should have been nicer.” “I am so much better than him/her/them.”
We live in a generation that embodies Burger King’s motto “have it your way”. We expect our server to be faster, everybody to drive as the same speed as us, and to get that promotion. We have grown up with technology that was constantly evolving and a consumerism that we expected to please us. When something does not go our way we get annoyed or even downright angry. The internet is full of people trying to prove themselves to others. Isn’t that what social media is really all about? We take pride in the fact that we fight for things and stand up for what we believe in but when it really comes down to it are we really willing to give up any aspect of our comfortable way of living?
I get so stuck in this way of thinking. Yes, I call myself a Christian but I am one of the most entitled people I know. Sometimes I forgot the world does not revolve around me. As I write this I cringe at the thought of someone reading it and I want to redeem myself by writing all the good things I do but to be completely honest I live my life with entitlement. I think that I should be treated a certain way and when I do not I get frustrated or angry.
One of my favorite quotes is “entitlement is when I get the false impression that I deserve more than I really deserve…which is a cross.” It is currently sitting on the background of my phone as a reminder to live my life out in grace towards others because I have been gifted with the biggest act of grace there ever was, Jesus dying on the cross for my sins. Once I sit in this truth and remember this my whole attitude changes. I remember that everything I have is a blessing from a God and has nothing to do with what I did.
1 Peter 3:8-9 “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing”
I can honestly say entitlement is something I have personally been working on over the years. One of the experiences I went through truly humbled me and opened my eyes to self entitlement. For example, I was a hostess at a high end restaurant for a little while after I graduated college and got yelled at a lot by my manager and customers. I thought it was crazy how people would get in my face and yell at me for waiting too long which was something I had no control over.
That’s when it hit me that I really need to work on treating everyone with respect and love. I need to first focus on how I treat people before expecting to be treated a certain way. For instance, one of the most popular Bible quotes is Luke 6:31 “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” I’ve read over this verse a million of times, but once you start living that way it will change your life and the way you interact with people. It may seem so simple, but even the smallest acts of kindness can complete change someone’s day around and that’s truly what we are here for. Sharing the love of Jesus through our daily lives.
I am type – A to a T. I am the first born and everything about me screams it. I was always planning, worrying, and stressing about my future. My whole life I was constantly obsessed with what lied ahead. Why is it impossible for us as humans to just live in and enjoy the moment?
I spent a solid 4 months job searching after I passed the bar without any luck. Going to law school was supposed to help my future but instead I sat on my computer day in and day out applying to countless jobs with no reply. My massive student loan debt sat like a morbid black cloud over my head. Nothing was going the way I thought it would. I was failing and more importantly I felt like I was failing all of those around me.
I thought that my life would be perfect if it turned out the way I planned it but little did I know that it would be so much sweeter if I just surrendered it all to God. I was just trying to do it all on my own. I was seeking what I thought would make me happy but really I was lost. It was not until I hit rock bottom that I realized that God was the only thing that could bring me out of this place. He truly saved me and made me realize all my idols. I am in a long and ongoing process to destroy these idols but without God I can do nothing and without him I am nothing.
The road I am on may not be the road commonly traveled but I am made a stronger and better person because of what God has put in my path. I am in a place of complete surrender and total joy to him. I would not take any of it back because I know he is the one who holds it all and for him I will live the rest of my days. I am done planning on my own accord.
I’m pretty similar to my sister in the aspect that I love to plan just about EVERYTHING. I guess it’s kind of in our DNA. Although one of the things I have learned just recently is life is unpredictable and your vision for your life can look a lot different than the one God has planned for you. The greatest thing about that is God’s plan for you is SO MUCH BETTER. The hardest part is having faith in knowing that it truly is and learning to follow where God is leading you.
If you would’ve asked me 5 years ago what I pictured my life like I can promise you it was nothing like it is now. I would’ve told you I see myself happily married with a home and a successful job in the field that I would love to work in. What’s interesting is not one of those things is currently true right now. I still live at home, I’m not married, and I’m not working in the field I want to, but with all that said I feel the Lord working in my life than I have never felt Him before. What’s crazy is I truly believe that God DOES give us more than we can handle so we lean on Him for help and protection. I can honestly say that the toughest situations in my life have brought me closer to God. Of course while I was in it I might not have said that, but looking back I could see God’s hand.
All in all if you’re in a bad place I hope that encourages you and motivates you to never give up because God is bigger and stronger than any problem you could possibly have! 🙂 Anywho I definitely think it’s good to reflect and look at our past and see the different ways God has personally worked in our lives because life gets busy and we tend to forget.
Jeremiah 29:11″For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (NIV).
Well hello 🙂
So I guess this is our official introduction blog. I feel like I should start off by saying this is our first blog ever. We really want to write out our thoughts in hopes of relating to you and letting you know you are NOT ALONE! First and foremost we hope to portray the love of Jesus as much as we can as we strive to seek him daily. I also want to point out that our blog posts are going to be informal, so if I don’t have perfect grammar, sorry in advance. I’m HORRIBLE at commas, so I tend to never use them or overuse them depending on my mood.
Since this is our introduction blog, I guess I should share some fun facts about myself. I think the best thing about writing down my thoughts is I have time to think about it because somehow when the question comes up in groups I completely forget any cool facts about myself. I literally can never think of even one! Here are 5 fun facts in bullet style because that’s always fun! 😀
- Let’s start with the basics: I’m 22
- I just graduated from college with a B.S. in Business Management
- I come from a family of 4: my parents & my older sister
- I live in Florida the sunshine state
- I love meeting new people
It is the older sister here. No, it does not make sense that I would go after my sister since she is younger but if you have any younger siblings you would know that they usually get their way.
Like my sister said we just wanted to start a blog because we wanted a place to put our thoughts and along the way maybe one person, maybe you, could relate to it. We are both 20 somethings and we are on this journey in our life towards finding life, love and happiness. Cheesy I know but completely true. We coincidentally have graduated at the same time even though we are 3 years apart. We are also both single even though we both thought we would be married by now.
I would copy my sister and go the easy route by writing down bullet points but instead I am going to share a couple things. I am 25, single and recently graduated from law school. That is another story for another time but above all I love Jesus and I am forever grateful I can call him my Savior. I really want to use my law degree to help the less fortunate and am really passionate about the cause of human trafficking.
Goodbye for now!